If I’d listened to what “they” said about my life, I’d have nothing, I’d be nothing. You are the only one who controls the outcome of your life. You always have choices, even if you don’t like them. Your sense and definition of self comes from inside you, and what you believe about yourself to be true. Only you know your truth.
What are you waiting for? Today is the day. I know…you thought it was some day, in the future, when something else happened, or when you’ve earned it. Guess what? Today is that day. What are you waiting for? It’s time.
A life on purpose begins simply. Sit quietly and begin the process of weeding out the influence of society, and “others”, learn to hear your ego voice and let its ideas go, when there is only the voice of your #spirit you’ll have found your authentic self – this is the voice that can guide you to #happiness and #simplicity in life.
Joy – such a little word, so much impact. I believe that we should seek out, or create, Joy whenever possible; And, that settling for momentary pleasures, rather than cultivating true moments of Joy, is simply short changing ourselves.
Here’s a list of just 5 things that bring me joy, I have cultivated the list so that when I find myself needing a boost I can create a moment of Joy. Years ago I realized that focusing on negatives didn’t change them, it just brought me down, I was a single mom struggling to work a full-time job and care for aging/ailing parents – I had enough stress I didn’t need to create more. So, I chose to change the way I thought because it was the only thing I could change in the situation, so I worked to teach myself to look for feelings of joy throughout my day. It was really about just being grateful for being alive, and finding joy in living. Like many things in life it takes practice to become a skill that you’re good at and sometimes I forget the habit and have to remind myself to seek joy – I’ve found that it’s totally worth the effort.
If you trap yourself within the rigid bonds of stress, disappointment, dissatisfaction, or unhappiness, you loose opportunities to experience change, growth, and the Joy that is the process of life. Make a choice, free yourself, open yourself up to new ideas, situations, and feelings. Listen to your own heart speak to you.
The known is a prison.
It is the unknown that is the
field of pure potentiality.
– Deepak Chopra
I believe we should strive to seek out Joy every single day. If you make a habit of looking for joy, you’ll begin to experience it more and more. So tell me what brings you Joy?
What makes you unique? Everyone has something special about them, and we should celebrate that. People really like my laugh, I glow like magic, I can always find a silver lining, and my skin is really soft (thanks gramma).
What makes you you? Figure out and let’s celebrate that!!
Taking time to be creative is good for you. The joy received from creating art can actually promotes emotional healing. Freeing yourself through art allows you to get lost in the creative process relieving stress which is a major cause for disease. Getting over that hurdle can be a challenge but it’s so worth the effort.
Be Creative: Share what you’ve done!
What was the last creative thing you did? How did it make you feel? Do you feel a need to create often? Do you let the fear of not being good enough stop you from #creating? Since creativity is good for your brain, why not share a photo of your last creative work and use the hashtag #bravelybare?
Narcissistic Abuse Recovery – Moving beyond a relationship with a narcissist is not a piece of cake. It’s difficult because their behaviors condition you to only think of them, to focus on their needs, to consider them first and after a period of time this process becomes a habit. You learn that if you don’t cater to their feelings you will suffer the consequences – your whole life ends up revolving around this other person.
Healing from a relationship with a narcissist is a lot like working the steps for an addiction; your brain doesn’t function normally after you’ve ended a relationship of codependency. The drama is like a drug, the push and pull of these strong personalities is like a sick form of gravity.
It can be so painful relearning to focus on your own self, to put self-care above other things, and to find footing in your own life again. Just like any addiction you miss that “drug”, you know it’s not good for you, you know it hurts you, you know you can’t “handle” it, but until you “reprogram” your brain the tug to return to what’s hurt you is extremely difficult to resist.
I sit here, missing Lisa. But, I know I don’t really miss Lisa. I don’t miss how she always put herself first, how she never cared about my feelings, that she never accepted responsibility for her actions, and how every time I lost my temper and told her to act like an adult she suddenly decided it was time to go back to her wife. I know that it’s just my brain thinking that it needs to “do something” because for almost a year my life revolved around a broken star.
I don’t ever want that dishonest, manipulative, destructive, disrespectful, sick, influence in my life again. It’s frustrating to struggle with this chemical/psychological habit, however, I’m grateful to be able to recognize where I am in the cycle and know that it’s just a matter of time – It takes 21 days to reprogram your brain to break a habit… it’s been 9 days since my last contact with Lisa… 12 days to go, and every day should get a little better from here.
A tool for healing from Narcissistic Abuse: SuperBetter
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