Real Advice: Ice Cream for Dinner is Acceptable

When my children were growing up sometimes, in the Summer months, I'd make a giant multi-banana split for dinner and we'd share that in a giant metal bowl. We'd sit on the floor around the coffee table, spoons in hand, laughing and talking, building an even stronger bond with one another. As teenagers, every six months or so, one of my kids would ask if we could have ice cream for dinner - we'd bring out the bowl, split the banana's and for a half an hour we'd sit together and just relax into the comfort of our ice cream tradition and reconnect our lives. You see our daily life and the "normal" can be numbing, it can become so [...]

By | August 23rd, 2016|Categories: Health & Wellbeing, Wellness|Tags: , , , , |0 Comments

Real Advice: It’s totally okay to walk away

This is your only life, and it's finite - the truth is, that no matter your age, you really have no way of knowing when it's coming to an end. Life is too precious to spend it on things that don't enhance the time you have. Don't hang around people or situations that aren't right for you, that make you fee uncomfortable, or that cause you unnecessary pain; It's okay to walk away. That sounds a little selfish and self-serving, okay... there are lines and here's two examples but I could create a dozen: As a parent you have to spend time parenting, even if your kid sucks. You made that kid, and like it or not, you bear responsibility [...]

By | August 17th, 2016|Categories: InSpiration|Tags: , , |0 Comments

40 Songs for Empowerment

"I'm tired of living my life by the rules of people who SUCK!" Back in December of 2010 I made that resolution, and I didn't realize that the very idea would bring with it such an exquisite change in my life.  I am not the woman who began the year of 2010, the one I was at the start of that December, I'm not even the one who began this year, or the one who passed through the agonizing days of this Spring and Summer.  As I sit here and write, I feel stronger, sure about the direction I'm going,  more confident, and more filled with unconditional love than ever before. If you'd told me a few weeks ago I [...]

By | August 10th, 2016|Categories: InSpiration|Tags: , , , , , , |0 Comments

7 Pieces of Relationship Wisdom You Need Now

I'll admit, I've had to do a lot of work to figure some relationship stuff out that's second nature to other people. I think in trying to be less skeptical, wary, (or judgmental) of people, I may have gone too far and here's what I've learned in the process of trying to have better relationships. 1. It's okay to be judgemental It's totally okay to say "you should only be in a relationship with someone who accepts you for who you are" but there needs to be a caveat added "...unless you're a shitty person. If you're a shitty person no one has time for your nonsense, work on your self, work on your shit, and you'll know you're doing [...]

By | August 4th, 2016|Categories: Health & Wellbeing|Tags: , , , |0 Comments

Real Advice: Scare the World

It's real advice - Scare the World. Be exactly who you say you are, and tell the truth. You will have nothing to be ashamed of if you are authentic and people appreciate it. Here's the thing, it sounds so simple - be real. That begins with being honest with yourself. First steps are taking a long look at yourself both inside and out, know yourself. You have to be prepared to accept responsibility for your actions, and reject the urge to blame others. You need to stop self-medicating with drugs, alcohol, shopping, or behaviors that perpetuate drama. Then, after you can be honest with yourself, you can begin being real and authentic in your daily life. The Prize! The [...]

By | July 29th, 2016|Categories: (in)appropriate|Tags: , , |0 Comments

Your Thoughts Inform Your Experience

The things we think about have a lot of power, they inform our experience of life, and our emotions. Mid-2014 I began working on my own self-talk, I began by accepting certain facts about myself - for instance I've weighed more than 200 pounds for my entire adult life. For most of those years I told myself that I could have things, relationships, happiness, etc. when I was thin. Please imagine for a moment how that thought process informed my life. Just think about spending 26 years in a self-made prison of "you must be thin". I have very few photos of myself from most of my life because of my concerns about my size. I shrouded myself in baggy [...]

By | June 23rd, 2016|Categories: Buzzworthy, Wellness|Tags: , , |0 Comments

The BIG Burly Project is Bravely Bare

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It’s real, empowering advice for women.

Welcome to the empowerment and lifestyle blog specifically written for trans and cis women of a certain age.

“You have been criticizing yourself for years, and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.”
– Louise L. Hay

Looks aren’t everything; Except that all the messages females receive on a daily basis about their looks and their value, effects self-worth and self-esteem; These messages are impossible to escape, they’re on TV, the internet, in magazines, in music, and in too many of our daily conversations. Intellectually, we know that our looks don’t define our intelligence, capabilities, or value as human-beings. We know that how we look doesn’t make us better parents, friends, lovers, partners, or employees. However, a negative self-image can impact how we parent, our openness towards friendships, how we love, and how we allow ourselves to be loved, it alters our perception of self-worth in all of our relationships and our careers.

Sometimes, it really feels good to look good. Sometimes, allowing ourselves to feel beautiful can give us a needed boost of self-confidence, all this can be the doorway to understanding what lies within our skin.

My goal is to empower you to feel more comfortable in your skin, heart, and soul.